Thank you so much for this share. It’s going to take me a while to fully process all that you’ve said and the many ways I identify. Im a “double winner” (hate that phrase) and nearly a decade into sobriety I see everyday how much pain I caused others in the past but how that same pain was inflicted on me as a child and teen...the family illness. I really hope with more open and honest dialogue that we can shine a light on the people who endured the alcoholic. Their stories, your story, is just as important.
Have you read Good Morning, Destroyer of Men's Souls: A Memoir of Women, Addiction, and Love
by Nina Renata Aron? I won’t do a spoiler other than to say it was the first book I’ve ever read which was totally from the point of view of someone staying with and trying to rescue an addict. Followed by them knowing they need to rescue themselves. It’s incredible (and so painful).
I sat here for a few minutes trying to figure out how to start my response. I'm so happy you are sober and I've tried to imagine how hard it is. On top of quitting, you have to reckon with the reasons that made you start using in the first place, and then all the pain and damage you inflicted while using. It's so fucking much. I'm in awe of anyone who is crawling up that mountain. I'm always interested in stories like yours (especially the complicated "double winner" stories). I just want them to exist next to mine. I just bought the book you recommended - thank you so much!
Oh my goodness. I am in awe of your compassion and empathy. I appreciate you letting me enter into dialogue about this and also to take up a small bit of space in your bit of the space.
Just had a scroll through some of your headings and i have that excited giddy feeling I get before starting a book I know I will love.
The one thing that keeps shining through and is the constant thing I need to work on: honesty. Is this my story? There story? Where do the stories bleed and merge...is there an end point to the pain once the rose tinted glasses are off and you’re healing.
There is space for everyone! I agree with everything you say about trying to figure out where my story ends and someone else's begins. It's a hard line to walk in writing and in life. I'll let you know what I think about the book - thanks again for the rec!
Thank you so much for this share. It’s going to take me a while to fully process all that you’ve said and the many ways I identify. Im a “double winner” (hate that phrase) and nearly a decade into sobriety I see everyday how much pain I caused others in the past but how that same pain was inflicted on me as a child and teen...the family illness. I really hope with more open and honest dialogue that we can shine a light on the people who endured the alcoholic. Their stories, your story, is just as important.
Have you read Good Morning, Destroyer of Men's Souls: A Memoir of Women, Addiction, and Love
by Nina Renata Aron? I won’t do a spoiler other than to say it was the first book I’ve ever read which was totally from the point of view of someone staying with and trying to rescue an addict. Followed by them knowing they need to rescue themselves. It’s incredible (and so painful).
I sat here for a few minutes trying to figure out how to start my response. I'm so happy you are sober and I've tried to imagine how hard it is. On top of quitting, you have to reckon with the reasons that made you start using in the first place, and then all the pain and damage you inflicted while using. It's so fucking much. I'm in awe of anyone who is crawling up that mountain. I'm always interested in stories like yours (especially the complicated "double winner" stories). I just want them to exist next to mine. I just bought the book you recommended - thank you so much!
Oh my goodness. I am in awe of your compassion and empathy. I appreciate you letting me enter into dialogue about this and also to take up a small bit of space in your bit of the space.
Just had a scroll through some of your headings and i have that excited giddy feeling I get before starting a book I know I will love.
The one thing that keeps shining through and is the constant thing I need to work on: honesty. Is this my story? There story? Where do the stories bleed and merge...is there an end point to the pain once the rose tinted glasses are off and you’re healing.
I’m so glad you got the book.
There is space for everyone! I agree with everything you say about trying to figure out where my story ends and someone else's begins. It's a hard line to walk in writing and in life. I'll let you know what I think about the book - thanks again for the rec!