“Every pile of nachos has one main chip that holds the whole thing together.” - Kevin James in King of Queens
I’m the cheesiest chip on my plate of nachos. Cheese is what sticks all the chips together. Cheese is love. Creating the community I crave means I gotta be that chip in the middle with the most cheese that holds the whole mess together.
This does not mean I have to do all the work in relationships or be in charge of making things happen or planning every event and get-together. But it does mean that if I have a specific need for community and connection, I need to be the center of it that draws in the people I want to have in my pile of nachos. And, of course, I want to be connected with people who do the same, so that sometimes I can just be a chip on other people’s plates, letting them provide the main goo tha…
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